Now that I have a whole 2 months of marital experience under my belt, I think it’s high time for a marriage post.
The truth is that I just think some of the rambings in my head may be good to get out, and possibly they may have the weight of freedom on them in some way or other.
As I think about marriage this morning, this verses come to mind.
“When you pass through the waters,
I will be with you;
and when you pass through the rivers,
they will not sweep over you.
When you walk through the fire,
you will not be burned;
the flames will not set you ablaze.”
I know not your typical marriage verse, and I could use a dozen others. But today the things that comes to my mind in the topic of overcoming. Perhaps all of life and even christianity is about this.
I like talking to other newly married couples, because you realize that all of us have things to overcome, especially when combining two lives that functioned quite smoothly alone. I am thankful beyond measure, because I am married to the humblest, most gracious man I know. My heart swells at the thought of him. I love that man more than anything except Jesus. In the tense moments, I can count on him to quickly round the corner, apologize, and once again pursue my heart.
And those my friends, are the qualities that really matter.
My qualities I was looking for in a spouse were humility, honesty, and humor (okay and maybe handsome too). I found him for sure. He exceeds my expectations in all of the above. I adore the man.
So back to overcoming, every couple of individual is always facing new giants in the land. And the beauty and challenge of marriage is choosing to be together as you pass through the water. Every relationship has different giants, ours won’t look the same as yours.
We are all gaining victory and taking lands through this process. We are all being prepared for things beyond our wildest dreams. We are all fighting to gain freedom in a new area. If we aren’t we should take a good look at our life and make sure that we are actually moving forward!
If you are single, let me encourage you by saying, everything doesn’t fall into place at the pronouncement of “mr and mrs …” It’s a whole new season of learning to overcome and grow in faith, and daily choosing to fight together for the new lands. But don’t lose hope, “He withholds no good thing” (Psalm 84:11). And marriage is a very good thing!
If you are married, more than likely you have way more experience at this than me, but please allow me to encourage you to cling to your spouse in the battles to overcome. Be it wanting a baby and not seeing that reality, having more babies that you feel like you can handle, stressful finances, a big transition, a challenging teenager, lack of communication, frustrating expectations, whatever it may be, chose the journey together and allow it to bring you closer. There is a call and a destiny on your union. Re-commit to overcoming the obstacles together. “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor” Ecclesiastes 4:9